Is He Stringing You Along? (What You NEED To Know!)

You may want to know if a man is stringing you along, if you are just an option for him and if he’s dating other women, then what should you do about it? How should you think about this? How should you respond to this? And I have put together 4 steps that I believe will give you a lot of clarity, a better way of thinking about this, that gives you confidence and makes you feel good about yourself, even if this is happening in your life.

Okay. So in today’s digital world, dating apps are all the thing, and everybody has an abundance of options now due to apps. So chances are he is dating other people, he is entertaining other people. It’s almost like something that we just need to accept as a part of modern dating now. So if a man is dating other people and you suspect he’s stringing you along, meaning you are not his first choice, you’re just an option to him and he is just keeping you around as a like, a backup, and he knows he’s never fully going to invest in you.

Then I think that’s just not cool, right? Like, if he knows that you’re a backup and he wants to be with someone else, or you know you’re not his number one choice and he’s just keeping you around just for fun, then I don’t think that’s very cool. So if you suspect that’s what’s happening to you, I think you need to trust that feeling, trust that intuition, because women know, right? We know when we’re a man’s favorite and when we’re not. And if you are not his favorite.

Let’s talk about how you should think about this, how you want to think about this and what to do about it.

Step 1: is to choose to be someone’s favorite.

What I see a lot of women doing is they allow themselves to passively fall into this role because they think, okay, he’s not investing in me, he’s not committed. But I still like him. I value him. So therefore I’m just going to stay here and just take whatever I can get. Kind of just like settling for this situation, even though it’s not what they want. And you want to be careful of that, right? When we passively just settle into an option, that means you’re perpetuating this situation that makes you feel inadequate, makes you feel not good enough, and then you will perpetuate this feeling of insecurity, and not good enough, and constantly worrying.

“Who is he talking to? Who else is he talking to? Who is he comparing me to?”

So I don’t think that’s very good on your mental psyche to be constantly feeling inadequate. So I think this is one of those things that you have to believe in yourself. You have to choose yourself. You have to choose to be someone’s favorite. Okay. And this is coming down to really owning and believing what you’re worth and believing you are good enough. You do deserve to be someone’s favorite, to be someone’s number one. And we really step into that role when we demonstrate to the universe that this is what we believe, this is what we’re going to accept, and we’re not going to accept anything less.

Okay so we demonstrate that to the universe by removing ourselves from that situation to begin with, by no longer entertaining and settling for this guy.

Step 2: is even if you’re the only one.

Okay. Even if he tells you like you’re the only one, there’s no one else. I’m not dating anybody else, but he is super busy. He’s stressed out. He has a lot going on in his life. He can’t be emotionally available for you. The fact of the matter is, if you don’t feel like a favorite, it doesn’t matter why you don’t feel like a favorite.
You don’t feel like a favorite and you don’t feel important and a priority to him, you are still lowering your standards or lowering your value, even if there is no one else, you’re not competing with anybody else, and that still goes back to my first step, is that you still have to choose you. Doesn’t matter the reason, okay?

You got to choose you. You got to believe in your worth, your value, what you deserve. And again, demonstrating that to the universe that you are not going to put up with this. You’re not going to allow this or settle for this.

Step 3 is to stop choosing him.

Okay. This is something that we need to mentally… this is a mental process, where we consciously decide we’re no longer going to choose, and we’re no longer going to entertain the idea of him and what it could have been.

All right. And I think some women struggle with this more than others. But you just need to recognize that this is not a mutually beneficial relationship. He may be getting what he wants, but you’re not getting what you want. So it’s not mutually beneficial. Okay. Now that does not mean you stop talking to him, you cut him off and you burn that bridge completely.

I’m not talking about that at all.

The way you want to think about it is, it’s like when you have a best friend in high school, and then she does something in poor taste, and it just, like, put you off her and makes you question the relationship. And then you decide that, okay, maybe I no longer want to be her best friend, you know, and then you just naturally spend less and less time with her, naturally allow that relationship to die, by you no longer, like, keep making the same effort as you normally would to maintain that relationship.

That’s kind of what I mean by you can just let it die rather than needing to cut that person off or, you know, like never talk to them again. It can just end very, amicably, very quietly, and it’s fine. Okay.

But the main thing here is you need to mentally and emotionally let that person go. And that is the process where you decide, okay, I’m no longer going to entertain the idea of them or what it could have been. And you allow yourself to grieve the ending of that relationship, right?

Even if it’s the ending of what it could have been like, the dream of what it could have been, there is still that grieving process that needs to take place, and it’s very healthy and normal. So you can just allow yourself to grieve, to be sad, to be disappointed and just to like, let that chapter close,

Step 4 – is to celebrate yourself.

And I don’t think a lot of women do enough of this. And it really needs to be emphasized. A lot of us tend to want to wallow in self-pity and beat ourselves up and feel bad about ourselves because this guy didn’t choose us. What I want to encourage you all to do more of is to actually celebrate yourself. Right?

This person not choosing us says absolutely nothing about you, about your worth, about how amazing you are as a person. This guy and his decisions was all about him. What he has going on in his life, what is happening in his brain, it has nothing to do with you at all. So I like to remind myself of this and then drop into gratitude. I like to celebrate the fact that I liked someone, I was attracted to someone, I was able to open up to someone and really seeing the value in simply experiencing liking someone.

Because I think when I didn’t like anyone, life just felt a little bit more dull, a little bit more monotonous.

Nothing to even get excited about. So I really enjoyed that.

If you focus more on feeling grateful for the experience rather than beating yourself up because he didn’t choose you, I think that’s a much more useful reframe, when this kind of thing happens and it will happen in dating, unfortunately. We can’t skip over it, right? We can’t skip over, incompatibility or someone else wanting something that’s different to us or bad timing.

So I like the practice of celebrating ourselves, even though we didn’t get what we wanted, this is so useful in the long term in developing our self esteem, our self-worth and feeling good about ourselves and feeling the confidence to continue on, to keep going, and to not give up on your romantic dreams.

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